It is downright annoying as when you think you've closed a door in your life you appear temptations. When you think of when a wound is healed instead of being something that is something that a scratch patch and the wound was reopened and it is often harder to cure.
More specifically, when you think you got over the separation from loved ones, he suddenly reappears in your life and you say maybe this time will be different, perhaps you from me ... and we can can can say that only half-opendoor ... I learned from last lesson, but we realize that give feelings burst upon us again.
When you say: no, this place I no longer work offers nothing, nothing will ever change, I am leaving. Hmm .. then there is the temptation, it's better pay, he would change something about your work, etc.. The proposed changes are typically changes at a superficial level. Even if you ask them, they often do not make you decide whether to stay or not to the place of work.
How to deal with temptations?
When it comes to love, is a execitiu we take in the workshop Call love into your life.
So imagine your heart, a big heart, beautiful, ready to receive love in your life. But the heart needs cleaning. Take a Waste shovel and clean everything is still there that can prevent a new chance to give love.
At heart there is a door behind the door ... "dos" throw garbage on there ..imagine how you put the garbage out. Then home ... regain the front door, a beautiful door, welcoming. You can imagine how the back door there fell away ... temptation. All you need is not more beautiful things. And love's open front door is open ... the person that will make life beautiful. How do you arrange your heart with confidence, with joy, the beautiful feelings when you're ready (to) love will ring at your door.
When it comes to workplace imagine that you wake up knowing that going to work with pleasure. It's a job where you feel very good that you do what you love. You can imagine the past those days where you feel frustration, anger, etc ... and you realize how important it is to have a job where you can feel smug. You wake up smiling, happy, enthusiastic, smiling, eager to start a new day of work.
Living in the moment of visualization will make you clarify and to banish the temptations, first of all recognize that there are temptations and stop letting "Bewitched."
These exercises will be done every time you want to intredeschizi door and let you prey temptations. Success!
Monday, November 29, 2010
Temptations
The 7 magic words
In continuation of the article last time, I thought it reviews some principles of communication that increase the chances of all participants to get a non-crease uncomfortable conversation.
Obviously, situations and people involved are so diverse that no one can claim to hold a guaranteed recipe for success, but maybe you will want to consider these suggestions:
Prepare yourself mentally for discussion. Summarized the topics you want to touch them and the results that you want to achieve. "Practice" in the conversation going, trying to anticipate possible points difficult. (Re-read the article about the intelligence of passage where I wrote more detail about the preparation of such conversations.)
Aim for a satisfactory result for both sides. A situation "win-win" is no "I win-win, you lose-lose." So make sure your motives are not selfish and to remember and what you have to offer each other. If you think the good of the person next to you, she would be compelled to do so?
Speak up and act relaxed. Someone said (and I can not contradict) that emotions are contagious. Do not let fear, anger, frustration or other negative emotions will lead the discussion. Remember that the energy that vibrate to attract a similar level (in translation, I'll forward your state party). Nobody likes to talk to a person desperate and cheeks with mascara elapsed ...
Choose your moment carefully. Ladies, written in any glossy magazine will not tell the man next to you "Honey, we need to talk!" Just when he's hungry or watching World Cup final. This advice may be generalized. With a little finesse and attention, you can detect the moment when the person you talk is in a receptive mood. Can be grouchy in the morning and afternoon working more intensely and hates to be interrupted. Talk to her at lunch!
Maintain constructive intent. There is a rule known enough feedback called "sandwich technique": a critique of two said in praise. It is very important to understand the other person you want to improve a specific aspect, you're not satisfied with (a) the whole relationship. Learn to tell the difference between "You're a fool" and "I believe that you behaved stupidly when ..." (ie not criticize the person, but the behavior).
No trial issue. Another so-called "trick" of effective communication is to report the behavior that you dislike a neutral way without making them add an emotional interpretation. See "This Month's delayed four times and I want to talk about it" vs. "late and always make me feel like a jerk because I realize that does not respect me." Many times the person in question did not realize that you are unhappy and it is possible that a calm discussion to solve the problem instantly.
No emotional blackmail. Not unless you give ultimaturi decided (a) you know them and if you're not prepared (a) to suffer the consequences. On the one hand, nobody likes to be his hand forced, and more, you could ruin everything accelerating someone to give you an answer to that is not ready.On the other hand, if it issues an ultimatum and then you disrespect, you will definitely lose credibility and you will forward party that has full power over you.
Use the 7 magic words. When you are ready to make someone a reproach them, begin your speech (verbal or mental) with the 7 magic words: "Since our relationship is important for me." This will help you remember the ultimate goal (to improve the situation) and you will temper the warring impulses.
In fact, as you can see, there is no "trick", "magic phrase" or "technique" to learn by heart. What matters is how you manage your inner state, respect for yourself and towards others and sincere intention to make things work. Find simple but very hard ...
Success in life
Today I woke up this morning thinking that I will write an article entitled "How life deserves to be lived?". I thought to do that because one of those who responded to the challenge launched last week in the article "Why should life be lived?" I suggested the theme mentioned above.
But when I opened my laptop to write, I felt more attracted to this "success in life."
First I chose this topic because here I can write much of the lessons we had learned during my life so far. And, secondly, lately all I see people who are successful in life hiding from the world and those who do not speak to us as they would have.
Yes it is true that if you're a man of a certain quality and have been taught to be modest and common sense, it's hard to think that you are successful. It's hard sometimes to accept that even when I come to you to tell others that.And maybe it's hard and you think, rightly, not successful yet, knowing what you have not yet.
Yes, it's true, success can be the end of the road. It may be when we have it all: special friend, a beautiful family, a professional situation is a reflection of passion, a good financial situation, free time for themselves, loved ones and passions ... and maybe more.
Equally true, though, and the fact that the road can be a success. And that really matter and that as you go by what you want. Matter what values guide you in daily life and that others see you and inspires. Does it matter what attitudes and behaviors that provide examples that others choose as models.
Yes, each of these issues does not mean you have already reached the success that you propose it, but yes, your way is, however, that in itself is seen as a success by others. And if they see him like that, maybe we should give you and you a chance to see it.
It's good to know that you have not yet arrived where you want to go
But as good and perhaps even more heartening is to know you as you propose to be, even if you got there. Know that you are proof that your fulfillment and daily behavior does not depend exclusively on that success, but you, diligently, constantly working to get there. And the fact that doing so in an exemplary manner and should be a success for you to enjoy inside to leave you motivated by success.
So, whether you have arrived where you've wanted to get it or not, how about you give it a chance and successes along the way? First, for you, for surely you will be better if you also see the glass half full and not just empty. And, secondly, for those around you who will surely appreciate to hear about your little successes along the way, even with the modesty and simplicity that can give you proof.
Yes, it's a shame to have a set of values and to respect. It's a shame to be ethically, morally, with common sense, respectful and responsible to yourself and others, to do your job better, to live your dreams or inspire others to live their lives better. None of these things is a disgrace. On the contrary ...
Return to life
The story goes that a man wanted to find the magical stone meets every need. Having no idea where to look, he went to a wise man to ask for advice. He said: "Magical Stone is on the seashore. Walk on the beach and take in hand every stone, if it is cold, throw it into the sea because it is just a normal stone, if it is hot, it means that you have found the Magic Stone. "
Hopefully, our man went to the seashore. The first stone he picked it was cold. Disappointed, he threw it into the water. And the second was stone cold - and threw it into the sea. He spent it all day, then another day and another day ... week in a row in which he found only the cold stones which he threw into the sea.
Then one day he put his hand on a hot stone. Magical Stone was right!Unfortunately, he felt that only a fraction of a second before throwing it into the sea. After many days, lost the habit of man and realize every gesture, throwing stones and I entered the reflex.
How many "magic rocks" waste daily because we live our lives on autopilot, always thinking the other hand, not stopping us any moment to realize what we are doing right now?
Trance
Most times, the second when we wake in the morning, went into a kind of trance. Once we start running the same thoughts in mind that we had yesterday, and the other day, and we launch hypnotized in the daily program.Go missing on the street and get along well known that not welcome.
Do not see that smells of lime or on the sidewalk is a lie. Arrived at the office, we agonized all day asking "Did I shut the door? I removed the iron from the socket? I turned off the stove? ". During our meetings we do think that an evening at home, and when we get home we think you'll do tomorrow at work.
Basically, though we act in the waking state, we really rarely sober in the sense of actually paying attention to what we experience now, without thinking of something else, not to pass everything through the filter of what we want, we believe, we would like that upset us today, tomorrow we will ingrijiora.
The absence of the present moment
This absence of the present moment we erode relationships, makes us miss good opportunities, we eat with unnecessary thoughts and, finally, to live our lives with the feeling that nothing happens interesting.
Let us pause for a moment to read an old haiku:
What a miracle! What a miracle!
Scot water
Chop wood.
What she means this little Zen wisdom focused, I think, quite clear: the only way not to turn our entire lives in a meaningless routine and not behave like robots is to be careful around us and to us. Habit of "living in our heads" makes us miss the miracle and wonder of being alive, to move us, to fulfill our daily tasks, to see, hear, smell, taste and feel.
Certainly it is difficult to reach the level of concentration and autoconstientizare of a Buddhist monk - he has to go daily to work in a hellish traffic, to trade penny stock to take their children to kindergarten.
But we made a pact with ourselves: we now return immediately when we realize that every time we thought elsewhere, not to be put in a position to see with regret that ... I accidentally threw into the sea a magic stone.
Two ways to achieve positive changes that we want
The first is classical Pavlovian conditioning. What this means: it means that when a stimulus coupled with a combination of action and repeat it several times, we reach a point that that stimulus becomes a trigger for the action.For example, coffee can, for some people to be a trigger to light a cigarette.By conditioning, whenever the person is in front of a cup of coffee, his cigarette lights automatically. Most times not aware of this.
How can we use conditioning to bring positive changes in our lives? The answer is to create positive rituals.
I have the following ritual: the morning after I wake up, I sit at the table and getting down to read. What I read: I read my goals that I want to achieve.Every morning, every day without exception. For me waking = reading goals.After a few weeks to introduce automatism and not have to make any effort: it happens every day.
The power of positive rituals is extraordinary: for example, conditioning the waking in the morning with a positive (physical exercise, reviewing objectives and daily tasks, writing an article etc.) can automatically trigger the thing, we can anchor it subconsciously.
How long until we manage this? Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz ("The Power of Full Engagement") believe that we need at least 30 days to install a custom. And it is recommended to focus on one habit that must intregram it a daily ritual.
The examples the authors analyze them are Ivan Lendl and Tiger Woods have used (or still use) in order to condition the rituals and skills to achieve their goals.
Rituals are great ways to transform our objectives and priorities of actions that realize them in all conditions. This success is conditioning.
Lack of a ritual is why we do not get the desired changes. Although we go to personal development courses for example, after a few days or weeks after the course back to our old habits in familiar routines, not to implement the new knowledge received. We are attracted to "the gravitational field of our old habits." But once I broke it this time, changing the "go on automatic pilot" and we do the things we so easily.
Conditioning is an intuitive method to achieve change. Counter-intuitive method to achieve the same change is called hypnosis. If the first method is relatively slow and require more time and effort to get results, hypnosis is the quick way to work directly with the elements of the subconscious mind.
What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is the critical factor bypassing the conscious mind and acceptance of selective thinking allowed.
The critical factor is what prevents most of the time to change. The "gravitational field that requires so much effort to overcome.
We thus obtain the two processing methods: the first method involves overcoming (demolition) obstacles to achieve our goals. The second home remove obstacles and give us the opportunity to sprint to the finish. How can we use the second method?
Motivation induced
It's probably mentioned in many books, materials, training or movies that motivation starts from a need or an emotion that we want to live. These in turn are also influenced by the values and beliefs we have. Last but not least are influenced by the fears and concerns that we inherited from less constructive experiences of our past (or of which we still have not managed to extract some lessons of life).
That said, does not mean that every man wants to finish things or quality.However, based on the above mentioned factors that influence motivation, not everyone feels ready to support a certain level of quality of his work.
Quality is influenced not only by the person's abilities, but also trust that person that has those skills.
They are capable people who have little confidence in what they can and then the chances are small that they perform to their potential and the expectations of others (although I feel that potential, to motivate feel neputionciosi in person).
And so we come back to the idea from the article "We are ready to endorse anyone?". Yes, the idea is not as motivated, but how to help a person find themselves not only to come naturally or as a desire to get things done, but trust that this is possible.
It may be an alternative approach, but often have to go to the cause, especially when you notice that treatment effects did not produce any results.
Are you sick to go to school?
If your answer to the question of title is "YES", the article below is for you, it will give some explanations. If your answer to the question of the title is "NO", the article below is for you, you will help you ask some questions. If your answer to the question of title is "Do not know", this article will help you to find an exact answer.
I start this article with a replica of a famous movie I watched with pleasure as a child - Karate Kid. Myiagi Sensei tells his disciple:
There are no slouch student, teacher just silly.
And with this began I know that I have raised 90% of head teachers, but ... I think that I and wanted.
I read recently an article appeared written by Stephen Vlaston Hotnews and I realized that "you are sick to go to school.
Young people today do not go gladly to school because they teach all sorts of nonsense, useless things, meaningless, or who do not see the point of usefulness. Let me give a few examples gathered from Mr Vlaston article and that will build:
"In mathematics grade (10-11 years), the revised curriculum:" The use, in various contexts, of infinite sets of natural numbers (the set of integer multiples of a set of numbers-in particular seems, odd set of numbers, the set of terms a stream that meets a given rule).
Class VI: (11-12 years) Exercise recognition of the significance of different weights in calculating weighted average.
Romanian Language and Literature, eighth grade, concepts collected from textbooks approved by the Ministry: omniscient, artifact, eponym, the authorial perspective, esoteric, transgression time, syncretism of languages, reflective character.
The ninth grade: conjecture, fastidios, alliteration, amfibrahul, oxymoron, troheul, toponomastica, omorganic, inextricably, acronym, analepsa, anticalofilie, climax, anticlimax, chronotop.
Let's say I'm part of those people uneducated and without basic knowledge who can not speak or write, but how many of you have ever heard or used notions above?
And when you ask others wonder: "How come you're sick to go to school?" Do you know how to justify the answer, but feel that something draws you to a place called school.
The above could be a justification, but there are others. I'll take them one at a time.
1. Concepts taught
About them it was in the quote above. It is clear that the matter that is taught today, in large part it is outdated, some of the concepts taught are heavy and useless, and that leads students from boredom and indifference. Here you can talk a lot, because there are teachers who know how to attract students to their side.
I know a lady teacher of Romanian young people who preferred that her class is reading something, instead of avoiding compulsory readings and recommended them "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory," "Legends of Olympus" Jules Verne's books or Agatha Christie novels. The highest recommended them to read literature or personal development or the novels of James Clavell Doru Davidovich.
2. Teaching Mode
Oooo, here I could go with roller in the teaching methods of some teachers or their demands.
I happened to be munching apostrophize by a teacher when I got out of class when all students have stood up, stood straight and said "Buuuunaaaa ziiiiuuuuaaaa" in a tone that expresses anything other than respect . I came to give a lecture on communication.
I refused to go to class once in these conditions for my lectures. I was told that this is how you learn respect and that it may better to "I got them under control." I was allowed "to do my number" and were regarded with pity ... "I will devour in five minutes!"
We say only that, the lecture ended with applause, and after 50 minutes I had 32 friends who respected me and told me: "can not wait to come."
Not to mention the classical teaching methods. The teacher comes, put the catalog on his desk, goes absentii, play two, three, standing lesson dictates that "only it is stronger" and then leave, not before saying: "Next time you test."
Only when I think I do And I pity those in banks. Both? That was the whole lesson? Where is communication, where mutual respect, where five minutes of conditioning, which are the best two minutes of talking, where is the interaction?
3. Lack of interest
Here, unfortunately, is a vicious circle. Students and teachers spinning in circles and not get anywhere, although each of them says, "Try!" We give them the right ones out, with it will remain "in a circle."
Teachers have a compulsory subject taught, students do not like the material, teachers are upset with the attitude of pupils, students become bored and insolent, angry teachers, students and become more naughty ... conflict increases. Teachers dislike the way they get students, and students are made sick by the school and teachers.
Let's see a scenario, the actual fact that the decongestant at a time, to a certain class of a possible conflict.
The teacher has to teach material imposed by the ministry, no matter what field. Comes in class and telling students about a week before you're going to teach and to propose a project. They each bring a contribution to the material taught, both as an information and image! Proceed will see how they will proceed.
The day of teaching, most pupils had a paper or more information and images about the topic, some had nothing. There were about 15 and about 10 pictures of different information about the topic. The information was made each phrase and each image was scanned. Those who had brought information or images have been co-opted to work on presentation.However, it was later made a PowerPoint presentation that won an award, not much, but enough to succeed as a whole class to make a day trip.
I'm not saying that among students there and ignorant and free copies of any scruples will not under any circumstances get involved in the learning process, but slowly the group will be excluded. Young people are very sensitive to what's right and wrong! In the above case were two students who did not have the interest and not in any way participated in the project.Her colleagues refused to take the trip. One of them came home with money, he was paid and accepted without the resentment of any party.
You know what it takes? Just a bit of interest and someone who was out of the vicious circle!
I'll give one example of a teacher who is one of those 10% that I consider him a mentor and remaining life in the hearts and minds of their students. A lady teacher, class teacher as a class, he decided to leave the circle.
At the end of the school year came to the festivity ... the bag! Yes, as you heard with the prize bag. Not offered banalele of old books, but Harry Potter books, sets of blades, ping-pong and soccer ball. How to choose: the happy winners, with a unified class and a group of colleagues who squint. What did he do? It came out of the circle!
Conclusions
If you answered no to the question of the title and the article will not face any questions raised is very good. You will be able to successfully fulfill all the tasks you will be drawn throughout life, you will be satisfied with what you have, without crave more, you have a life as the things you do. Good luck!
If you answered do not know and now you changed your option to Yes means that you are on track. You get from life what you will, you know what to look for your interest, you will succeed in completing your education to bring things and concepts that will develop and you will be able to fashion your life as you want. Any good change is better than later to make at all! Good luck!
If you answered yes to question, do not despair! Think positive, the school in its essence is a positive thing, teachers will be true if you find mentors and especially the right ones, received notions fill the school to others that are found in alternative sources of education (web development booksPersonal, books in general). In life you will be among the leaders, you have everything you want and no dream of yours will not be satisfied. Success!
Can you effectively ask?
Anthony Robbins, one of the best known promoters of personal development, used to hold seminars on "How to get anything I want." He asked each participant to take out a sheet of paper, write what she wants and then says he will share the magic formula to get those things. When the man could no longer look forward, he says: "Ask! End of seminar.
What he wanted to say through this simple, "Ask!"? To claim, you tanguiesti, you cry, humiliates you? He fell from the sky waiting for help, works of charity or someone to do work for you? No. What he wanted to say is that you need to decide exactly what you want and learn to ask precise and intelligent.
There are five guiding principles to ask so that you get what you want.Although it may seem common sense, you will find that often are not applied or, in any case, not concurrently.
1. Ask for concrete and specific.
Describe clearly what you want, what, when, where, how and with whom, how? When asking for a loan from a bank does not say: "Give me some money to me, how many have, to open my shop over the last year or two."You go to a business plan and know exactly what you do and how much money you need.
Apply this model of precision whenever you ask for something. Words and phrases and avoid confusing, vague and generalized. You know, veiled reproach applications-such as "You are never out!" Or "Someone would have to change something in that company." Better say "I would like to give me more attention when ..." or "I want to know how to help improve ...."
2. Ask someone who can help.
Ask someone who has the resources (and possibly skills) required: Knowledge of the field that interests you, money, relationships, business experience. Do not confuse the effective exchange of information "bar wisdom" shared with someone who has the same problem as you.
Do not ask about love advice to someone who has never had a long term relationship and not about the money a person plunged in debt. Find instead a man who has what you do not have (money, a happy relationship, leisure, etc..) And see what makes them succeed. Or hire an expert.
3. Offer value in exchange for your request.
Do not wait just to give you, but first think about how you can help you on the other. Give yourself the person requesting contributions. Do not give the impression that expect mercy, but you look like a fair exchange.
In Maori culture (Aboriginal population in New Zealand) is said to have made gifts of the spirit, called Hau. When someone offers you something, that object's Hau wants to return there, where it came from and "haunt you" until you offer in return a gift to that person. (More on this topic in the book "rich man" by Tor Nørretranders).
So even if you believe in spirits, be sure to balance supply and demand and explain very clearly what you got to give in return.
4. Ask with conviction and repeat until you get what you want.
The surest path to a refusal to send conflicting signals. If you're not convinced, you will betray the tone of voice, posture or look.
You must be able to show that you know what you want, you're sure you'll succeed and that you create value, not only for yourself but for the person from whom you ask. And again! That is not to ask the same person, nor ask the same way and in any case to harass or bored people with insistence.
Change-up, adjusts up, restates your application with other words or simply address your letter to someone else. But do not give up. Eventually you will find favorable circumstances.
5. Do not be embarrassed to ask for help.
One of the hardest things is to recognize that not by yourself and you're overwhelmed. Many people avoid asking for help from a variety of reasons: the pride, of ambition, fear, and not to wrinkle or image that does not realize that they need help.
But getting help does not amount to recognition of humiliation or defeat. And if you ask intelligent and efficient, you will definitely find someone who will help you. Remember: only the strong and wise people really have the courage to recognize in time that they need help.
So follow these tips to increase your chances of success. But do not forget what Oscar Wilde said:
There are two tragedies in life. One is to not get what you asked, and the other is to achieve.
Let's look, and other laws!
I do not think that there is already someone who has not heard of the Law of Attraction. It says, in essence, that energy that you convey your thoughts and predominantly in the universe attract the same level of vibration energy, or resonance frequency.
Its promoters shall mainly focus on the idea that if you send your thoughts 'right', you attract to you everything you want. The biggest challenge to the Law of Attraction is that it works automatically, but both in the positive direction and in the negative. Most people do not realize that, focusing on what or what not bother them, they channel their energy to attract even more of what I have or do not mind!
But there are other universal laws that do not get the same attention and promotion such as the Law of Attraction. Maybe not spectacular enough, can not promise immediate effect and does not have that element of "magic", but I think it is worth briefly pass in review. You will see that some of them will seem familiar to you!
Deliberate Creation Law says: "What I think, begin to attract. What we think intentionally, attract more rapidly. " Although apparently the same thing with the Law of Attraction, the difference is the following: as explained by including the Law of Attraction you attract negative things, if unconsciously persist in a negative state.
If instead it deliberately transmit the universe, conscious, productive thoughts and emotions, you will attract what you want. In other words, the Law of Attraction are often passive and not a creator figure out how you drew certain situations in your life, while Deliberate Creation Law incur voluntarily, consciously. Therefore, as sages say, wait a guard at the gate of your mind and do not let anyone go!
Acceptance can be synthesized Law principle of least resistance: "They are what they are and allow them and others to be what they are." This law really prompts you to accept, and not just to tolerate the differences they observe in others. If you are not aligned to this law, means that you claim that people think, feel, believe and act according to how you think "should".
The habit of judging others will do, according to the Law of Attraction, to attract even more negative circumstances or people in your life because you focus on criticizing and judging them. Moreover, you got angry and annoying you that others do not behave as you want you, affect your mood, energy level and inner freedom. How to be free if you always need everyone to conform to your expectations you feel satisfied?
Law sufficiency and abundance. In the last article talked about the crisis and thinking how much it affects your chances of success.
Try to realize right now that you have within you all the resources you need to accomplish your goals. From a spiritual and energetic, "portion" you is limitless. You've been given life and have access to all the power needed to succeed. You should not feel cheated if someone else has more or less success, as it would have taken the "ration" your.
The mentality of tribulation (thinking Poverty ') weakens your ability to manifest your own desires. If you focus on the idea that you never have enough or not enough opportunities part, will continue to attract the lack of opportunities. The universe has an unlimited potential - the only limits are those that we impose on us through fear, doubt, lack of confidence and belief or any other emotion with low vibration.
Law posting. In a way, it is non-attachment correspondent was talking about in another article passed. To get something in the physical universe, you must give up attachment to that thing.
Eventually, it all comes down to trust. When you are in a state usually detached, relaxed? When you trust, you're assured that everything is working properly.
When you just know - at a deep level - that you will get everything you need, the results come naturally, and the time in which they appear to be perfect, no earlier or later than you should. If you become worried or anxious, sit as an energy barrier that works to end result and do than to be late. So set your positive intention, do what you do and then ... just have faith!
Law speaks of unity in duality polarity. There are two opposite poles or anything, but represent the two extremes of the polarity of something that is actually the same thing. For example: hot / cold, good / bad, rich / poor may refer to the same or the same person but may mean different things to different people.
What is important to understand the Law of Polarity is the ability to transform your perception so that you create a new reality. It depends on you to change your mind about something or someone. When you can not perceive a man as "evil" and you consider "good" actually turn your whole attitude towards the man. And a change of attitude can cause a change in the entire experience you have with that person.
It was a brief description of the five universal law that you can only believe alone or "annex" of the Law of Attraction. It is important that all works together, support and complement each other.
If I want to stay with one idea after reading this article, it would be: be careful what you attract into your life by chance, without realizing it! Making it a habit to consciously focus your thoughts and emotions to what you want (not what you do not want to) and always working on your energy level, will allow the Law of Attraction to work as they should!
Relaxation is attractive
It was once a woman who deserted her boyfriend. For months she cried, suffered, was furious, and razor-analysis examined how and why this happened, without reaching any conclusion. Sadness overwhelmed and the conflicting feelings, but one evening he decided he had enough and threw in the trash framed photo of former boyfriend, which he kept on the nightstand.
But the morning when he woke up, the picture was back on the nightstand.Thinking that someone had played a trick on her house, took pictures, went down stairs and threw her to the garbage bin behind the building. But the next morning, guess what? Photo was still on the nightstand. Livid with rage, got in the car, ran to the edge of town and threw the photo at the landfill. But alas! Morning and found himself back on the bed with framed portrait.
Thinking he is already fallen prey to a conspiracy designed to bring her to the brink of insanity, she hired a private detective to lie in wait and see who keeps on bringing back photo on the nightstand. Then he headed back to the outskirts and threw the photo at the landfill.
Dimineara, horror! Photo reign on the nightstand.
She immediately phoned the detective and asked who is the author of this rude jokes. To which the detective, rather puzzled, replied: "You, ma'am, you awake in the middle of the night and you went to retrieve the photo of the garbage."
The conclusion of this semi-horror stories? To get rid of something that haunts you, you should not lose that something outside you, but part of you still cling to that something.
Sounds pretty complicated, right? In fact, as you reach the stage where you can not go further because of a failure? A possible answer can be found in how you set your goal from the very beginning and exaggerated emotional that you gave it ("objective" in this case, can be anything from a promotion toa relationship).
A big mistake is when you want something to match these desires feelings and thoughts of despair, worry, obsession or whatever fits in the series will end my life if you do not get X "or" I do not mean anything without Y.
Basically, when you desperately want something (a colloquialism, unfortunately), do not manifest than you fear - fear that you will not succeed, you'll be rejected (a) as well so you do not do everything. - And you will attract exactly that: failure, rejection, failure. Even if you get that something temporary, permanent fear that he will lose his turn sooner or later autoimplinita prophecy.
I found one of the best "antidotes" to such an attitude reading a book on Zen wisdom. Way Zen wrote there is to do every thing like your life depends on it, but without caring about the result.
Beyond the apparent contradiction lies an interesting idea: focusing on the total moment can help you be successful because that work with maximum care, so you get better. At the same time, lack of attachment to the result does not mean resignation or fatalism, but an attitude that helps you go forward with serenity and wrong if you do not sleep on her ear if you can.
But, you say, if you are passionate about your work or if you love someone how can you not get involved, not your heart? Passion requires you attach the result of work / relationship and, eventually, to suffer if something goes wrong, right? On this question, perhaps the best answer is Deepak Chopra's distinction between non-attachment and detachment.
Non-attachment word may sound like a synonym for detachment, indifference, and indifference. In reality, non-attachment is a state of freedom, tolerance, acceptance.
Attachment, says Deepak Chopra, is a form of dependency based on ego.Get attached to something or someone because you need to confirm your needs and desires as surely looking, looking to "feel whole" through that something / someone.
Paradoxically, as we're more attached, the more you are more authentic, stronger, truer love you and you can be free from fear of failure because you do not need external confirmation. Relaxation and confidence that the relationship or the draft will go to work and they in turn autoimplinite prophets.
To conclude on a note less ... mystical enlightenment and I am convinced that good ideas can come from anywhere, so I was not surprised when I heard a hit R'n'B (Miss Independent Ne-Yo ), a line that illustrates very well the idea of non-attachment:
There's something about the kind of woman you want But That Do not Need You (grammatical errors belong to the author).
It was not you but you need to how obsessive to want but do not let yourself get consumed by desire is, in essence, to trust in the Universe, God, Buddha or any deity means for you as you work in your favor if you do and you work your side.
Have faith that everything is as it should and you can not stop the natural course of things. In here somewhere, faith meets real inner freedom. Plus, you become very sexy!
Inner experience
Law of Attraction teaches us how we can consciously create the future, think and feel like what we already would have happened. Easier said than done because many pitfalls in a practical way that, without knowing or want, we ask ourselves alone. Not intentionally, of course, but automatically, unconsciously programmed from childhood or even earlier.
Kevin Schoeninger, a founder of Mind Body Training Company, is a trainer, Reiki Master and Qigong instructor. Here are some of his good ideas on this issue (along with some personal considerations). There are things that some may know them from elsewhere, but how they are explained here is simple and direct. So we have the advantage of us remember - or learn and realize for the first time ...
Little sabotage
It keeps talking about the power of intention and how, when one set, the universe will answer you. But there is one little problem. We attract things, people, events on the subconscious level, without necessarily intending it.As much as we see, feel, intend on a conscious level, if there are programs that interferes unconscious, sabotage us alone.
How do we know this? There are several signs. Maybe we are "confused" and do not know exactly what you want to "draw". We want something (money, things, relationships), but it's like missing something deeper. We are afraid to fail if we intend dreams too daring - so renounce desire. All of them keep us there, somehow.
Removing these programs require more than thoughts, emotions and positive action. They should be made aware that these patterns be related to the energy released. Only then can set our conscious intentions.
Grand sabotage
Experience to "like" it removes some of you. Instead you have to "get" it. Our being, what we create our life.
We attract everything by what we are, not by what we do. What comes to us is a consequence of our own consciousness.
I learned the first time these ideas now more than nine years of (probably) the first book that made reference to the Romanian market and explained these issues ("Conversations with God", Vol 1, ND Walsch - Ed For You,1999). At that time it was something new and it took me years to understand, to live and experience these truths, step by step (and still have much to learn).
Meanwhile, hundreds of books on NLP, personal development and spirituality have taken the concept further and have added new facets. Here, briefly, some ideas from Kevin (similar to those of Walsch).
The problem is that we want something - and 'like' material things is that now you do not. Although the view and feel like you've had today, the subconscious knows that you do not have them now - otherwise you do visualization exercises. It's something outside of yourself - and that's what you do to attract what you want.
Consciousness may perceive as "stay focused on having now" - but do not fool the subconscious - we "do not want to have it." At the level of being are in a state of "wanting." The subconscious knows that you are looking for something outside to get what you feel is missing - so it will give you more of what you want and "affirm" that have not yet. We still run programs lack, desire, poverty.
If you want to attract any (eg, love), you must think, feel and do acts of love inside, that to experience love. Then emit outside - it's an inner experience that becomes a mirror on the outside. The state of the environment to attract frequencies that resonate with you. When you live in a state of inner wholeness, love, abundance, gratitude, they will experience the outdoors.
We need to focus on your inner emotional-energy environment, and that draws the life you want. Unfortunately, most times, we lose the interior experience in a world increasingly outward-oriented results.
We are "obsessed" with the final outcome because we believe he will make us feel safe, loved, accepted. We measure and judge each other according to the results we obtain (the 3 P, as I call them: Popularity, Productivity, Possessions). And we realize that, in fact, we lose ourselves in the process of life - "miss" higher purpose, inner experience, the journey of life.
Practice
We need to remember this, to reconnect us to our being, to who we really are. And all that you need to make are small steps, day by day.
A daily practice (and rituals), no matter how brief, will connect us with our being is vibrating at high levels. And we will provide the energy to feel that we already have everything inside. Then, coming out in the world with this condition, which resonate and attract the same level match. This is how materialize.
Next time we talk about such a daily practice that we can maintain a high level, above the unconscious programs.
Your relationship with you
In relation to a life partner, no matter how nice it would be and no matter how much we have in common, at some point we will hit all the different ways to react and question. It's basically a matter of time before when will they appear small or large (depending only on us) conflict situations.
Each partner brings in his past relationship first and how they lived experiences shaped his way of being. In fact, there are those experiences to shape our own, but rather how we choose to interpret and represent mentally. Choose practical significance for each lived experience.
For example, if we do not answer the phone many times, we may ascribe this event a lack of interest from the one we are trying to contact him, that we reject or avoid and why not, that is predictive scenario in the company of another person of the opposite sex. Or, you can choose to see beyond that missed call, a busy person, or simply does not hear the phone, why trust investing that missed call. We take things personally or not, and depending on this choice against the increase or decreases the quality of our lives.
The module dedicated to relationships in the "Get the Edge, Tony Robbins concludes that the pit many times the partner's reactions are a direct response to our address, but rather are a response to an experience of the person lived in the past and present or brought their own needs nesatisifacute when no illusion that needs can be satisifacute strictly through the prism of the relationship we have with your partner.
Yes, your spouse will satisfy your need to be loved and to feel important, but so long as we do not we manage to satisfy this need, it's just a matter of time until we feel the bitter taste of disappointment and rejection. For that, where there are people with different life experiences different social and family influences, different, different education and training, at some point there will be conflicts and the inability of our beloved satisfy these needs, at a desired level us.
So how is best?
I think what often saves a partner relationship is the ability to not take things personally and especially not to go to neglected issues in the relationship. I understand by this ability to be able to satisfy your own needs they expect You and powerful to satisfy their relationship, before entering the relationship. In other words, be yourself, first of all that life partner you are looking for, developing that relationship with yourself that you want and a projection into the future.
When you get hungry in the relationship of love, desire to be appreciated and to be significant, increase or to find stability and / or variety, no can you give you first of all the things you look for to your spouse, you're an investor who puts his recent reckless bucks in one bank, to leave without the slightest reservation aside. And if the bank goes bankrupt, what happens?
We see implemented this "bankruptcy" in dysfunctional relationships couple unmet needs whensearched through the prism of a relationship brings spiritual ruin and a lock that prevents us longer be functional in other aspects of our lives, such as for example our own relationship with us, work, friends, family, our passions.
When each partner relationship steps into a position where he wants to give and to maximize the potential reached in its relationship with himself, "I give - you get", and not from a selfish level that wants to satisfy their own needs "you give - I receive", or at an intermediate level, conditioned celuilat reaction, such as "give, give, you're not, do not give," will successfully cope with the inherent differences that will occur at a time. It will manage to overcome them without taking things personally, without resentment and high-stakes game, but detached and balanced.
Choose to invest in yourself first, to believe in you and give you attention and love that you are looking for the perfect partner. Remember that many times we are the answer for a partner's reaction, but rather the experience of the past, its own meaning on events and choose to give it its own particular needs.
As a relationship work well and be functional it is important that each partner must be it for him they were looking for that ideal in the other person. When you do not need a partner to feel loved couple, join our relationship providing a level and not demand.
When two different people "to offer" one another and choose to grow together through the overlapping of personal needs define who already met individually, creates the premises of the relationship of your dreams.